Love Is A Lie

I don't believe in love. Well, not the everyday conception of love anyway.

Everybody is in pursuit of "love", but that's not what they really want. Why? Because real love is everywhere. Love is just an emotional attachment to something. There's nothing mysterious about that. Love is just a feeling and I believe it's a feeling you'll share with many people in your life.

I can say this because I've fallen in love before but I'm not certain I've ever fallen out. Do you think it's possible to un-love somebody? I'm not sure but I do know that love isn't what tore my relationships apart. It was just plain ol' compatibility. I think everybody just needs to come to the realization that sometimes, love just doesn't cut it. You can make romantic cliches about loving every molecule or every invisible gram of somebody's soul but love isn't what keeps people together. Love is just a feeling. I've learned that is possible to care deeply about somebody but still not get along with them and I'm certain that there's people who can relate.

Passion is overrated. Every woman melts at the idea of being taken into the arms of a passionate man but what is passion but forceful love? Being passionate is a feeling and feelings mean nothing. A feeling is not a pass-time. A feeling is not a moral value. A feeling is not an opinion. A feeling can't tell jokes. A feeling won't accompany you to the ballet. A feeling is just a feeling. In the end, the only thing that can keep two people together is how they get along, not how they they feel about each other. Feelings may grow sour when you find out you don't get along but not the other way around.

So what does all this mean? It means we need to learn to be truthful to ourselves. We're not searching for 'love', none of us are. Most of you have already found it and threw it back. Who cares about love? We're just searching for the right person for us. The realization then, is that the person you end up with might not be the one who loves you most but just the person you can stand to be with the most.

More Proof?
Love should be an independent feeling but it's not. We associate it with how we get along. We demean love that is unrequited, like it is of lesser quality, but who is to say it isn't real?
Take a look at the different situations below:
Love + Love = True love
Love + Growing Love = Romantic/Puppy Love
Love + No Love = Unrequited Love
Love + Never Love = Insane Love
Is love only validated if it is returned?

Conclusion:
Love is a lie. It's not a magical, selfless thing. Love is selfish because the love we're searching for is for ourselves. We not only want to be loved, we want to be loved the way we want to be loved.

Today's Track:
Smashing Pumpkins - 1979

Brainfart - Worthless Turn Ons

Girls love themselves a Man's man. Girls love to feel sheltered and protected. "I need a man that's big and protective" they say.
Well I'm confused.
We're all grown-ups and this is 2009. Remind me again why anybody should need to protect you? Are we in the school yard? are you rich and famous? are we cavemen? are you a fugitive? what the hell aren't you telling me?! if you do in fact run into trouble...are we all of a sudden going to settle it with a duel?
That is a completely worthless trait.

I am a lover not a fighter.
hahaha.

Today's track:
Taihiti 80 - 1000 times

My Desk

=/ My thumbnails are all fuzzy and whack. Too lazy to fix it. So here it is, my desk. As requested from Yuk. Yes, I admit my desk is not usually this neat. Although all I really did was put some loose papers away. I know my pictures are blurry, I can't take pictures. Do you see anything interesting? My video games, TV and computer are all in one place. I pretty much live at my desk. There's no real personal touches. Why? Because I sort of like the minimalism of it? And also because I know once I start with little things here and there, I'll start accumulating loads of knick-knacks that I won't know what to do with.

I suppose this is where I tag somebody...so, you're it! Yes, you. =p

Today's track:
K-OS - 4 3 2 1

Brainfart: Pet Peeves of Public Restrooms

First things first, I'm not a germaphobe nor do I have OCD. I trust I won't be alone when I say that I can really appreciate a well thought out restroom. Now why is this worth blogging about? Quite frankly, it probably isn't =p but I've been uninspired lately so amuse me. Now on to some pet peeves...

The Inadvertent and Inevitable Sink Scrubber - I just don't understand how it happens but don't you hate it when you go to wash your hands and the end of the faucet hangs just over the edge of the sink? To the point where the only way you can get water on your hands is when your hands are literally rubbing up against the inside of the sink? How does that happen? Who designs these sinks? Are they purposely chosen so that the people who use them also end up cleaning them?

The Pointless Two Hand Wash - You know what really pisses me off? Those damned faucets where you have to have a hand on it for it to run. It doesn't make any sense. It means you can only wash one hand at a time and when you go to wash your other hand, you end up putting your clean hand back onto the dirty faucet. So what's the point?!

The Splashing Sink - You know when sometimes you go to some nice places with contemporary decor that is totally not functional? Y'know, the sink that is visually quite interesting but in reality just funnels water on to your crotch? Yeah, those suck.

The Glacier Melt - The water comes out at one temperature setting only. Liquid ice. Why? I suspect it saves money 2-fold. 1, saves on hot water. 2, people run the taps a lot shorter. Maybe there's a third - they won't be back.

The Warm Breath - I'm all for saving trees and using less paper towels but if you're not going to offer towels, please offer a better alternative than a machine that simulates people breathing on your hands.

The Wet Button - The only thing worse than bad hand-dryers are the kind that are button operated. They have that disgusting wet button, it's so dirty. I swear I'm not OCD.

The Neighborly Urinals - I'm certain that there's an established standard regarding how close urinals can be next to each other. There must be, because if I'm at the urinal and your leg is touching mine, that is too damn close! There's no point putting urinals that close together. There must be a one urinal buffer between each person, unless there is a divider between the urinals.

Okay, I could keep going but enough...haha

Today's track:
Birdy Nam Nam - Red Dawn Rising